Fear of Gay Men to Stay Single
Gay people ‘at risk of a lonelier old age’
The fear of being single can hurt your chances for a happy romantic relationship. I’ve seen a development in the gay community lately. Too many folks are feeling pressure to remain single not because we want to, but because we’re frightened to stop our sexual freedoms. Doing this would be like saying goodbye to your youngsters, the joys of variety and, more importantly, the perks to be single.
Gay men in relationships have great power. But when it comes to love and sex, it’s clear that single gay guys are lacking half of the equation. With singleness, yes, comes independence. There’s no partner holding you back, no responsibilities to attend to, not even post-sex guilt. But has this freedom become an excuse for single gay guys not to find a relationship?
In the gay community, it’s don’t assume all day we meet someone who wants exactly what we wish in life. Way too many people feel the pressure of conforming to whatever their friends are doing or, even worse, what culture tells them they should be. With so many mixed messages coming from both sides, it’s easy to improve our minds with each moving hour. You visit a couple holding hands, you will want relationship. You visit a hot guy across the golf club providing you sex-eyes, you’re glad you’re single so you can answer the decision. It seems like our hearts and our penises are in an ongoing fight which always ends in stalemate.
Where’s the rub? Many of my homosexual friends like to reason with themselves. “Who needs men? Psh, it’s a waste materials” or “I possibly could never have sex unless it’s with my sweetheart.” Whether they’re solitary or viewing someone (at any moment), they will be the first to guard their status to make themselves feel better, which makes me believe the pressure doesn’t come from society, but within ourselves.
We’re constantly changing our minds. In today’s world with so many digital devices floating around the stores, we’ve more variety than we’ve ever had. With that, comes the knowing of what’s out there: a great deal of men, and a lot of sex. Both things are easier to achieve today in 2014, so naturally the two have grown to be a fork in the road towards our goals.
The pressure to stay one is more than just about sex. There are a plethora of explanations why gay men flip flop between both desires, but what it all comes down to is the fear of letting go of something. Sex creates incredible strain on the desires and needs of our public lives. Generally, it pieces the bar. Eventually it can replace logic, entrapping our mentality in the state it’s at, forcing us to preserve it there at many costs.
The pressure to stay single is massive, but like all pressure, we are the ones who choose to remain inside it. To have pressure means you’re fighting against something. Possibly the reason why you’re feeling pressure is basically because, deep down, what you really want is conflicting to what you think you will need. There’s some food for thought.
The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness By Michael Hobbes At HuffingtonPost
“I used to get so excited when the meth was all gone.” This is my friend Jeremy.
“When you have it,” he says, “you have to keep using it. When it’s gone, it’s like, ‘Oh good, I can go back to my life now.’ I would stay up all weekend and go to these sex parties and then feel like shit until Wednesday. About two years ago I switched to cocaine because I could work the next day.” More here…..
Another Opinion: 20 Honest Reasons Gay Men Stay Single (On Purpose)
Why do gay men choose to be single? The answers will shock you and leave your sides aching. Don’t let those romance movies fool you, ladies and gentleman. Being single definitely has its virtues … provided being single is your goal. More here….