Happy Valentine’s Gay!
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So Valentine’s Day is here now again and, surprise, mainly everyone seems just a little pissy about any of it. Or maybe it’s just me. Definitely not because I’m single and suddenly can’t stand to see anything red just like a charging bull. But more so because it’s a holiday that still appears to be catered toward direct people.
For LGBT couples, Valentine’s Day isn’t just about expressing love for he or she. Because of the way things are, it can’t be – it has to be about pride. Which is sad, because like I always tell people, we shouldn’t have to be proud of something like that.
“It shouldn’t be different for [gay people], they should do everything that straight people do,” said Nicholas Lawrence, a heterosexual junior from the Savannah College of Art and Design. “Because really, it isn’t different in any significant way.”
He’s absolutely right, as any homosexual college student, used or solitary. Cupid didn’t misfire when he shot all the gay people out there. But that is the look some LGBT people get when public with their love. And not only on Valentine’s Day. I remember the first time I ever went on with a guy – he got me to this fancy Italian restaurant. Maybe I used to be paranoid, but sitting at a desk for two with another man felt just like a spotlight.
“Unfortunately some LGBT individuals in other countries, and sadly even our own, may not be able to safely and publicly celebrate that love on Valentine’s Day,” said Alex Cheeves, an older from the Savannah College of Artwork and Design. “But that’s something of the social, communal and politics environment these are in, not the vacation itself.”
This is true for everyone 365 days a year. For some direct people, gay people aren’t really there – there are always a set of issues to be described on the nightly news. But to gay people, or at least myself, there is no issue whatsoever other than the way society as a whole views homosexuality. The complete concept behind Valentine’s Day just amplifies that. I’m still waiting for a gay man to say “he visited Jared.”
“It’s so heterosexually charged which i almost believe that celebrating Valentine’s Day with [my girlfriend] is kind of phony… God, I simply realized how much I hate Valentine’s Day,” said SCAD senior Sara Uhlig. “It’s such an excuse for Us citizens to invest money and battle over supper reservations.”
You can’t deny that Valentine’s Day is one of those consumer holidays. Although I don’t believe that is necessarily a poor thing, particularly if the individual bankrupting you will probably be worth every cent in a precious way. But that commercial aspect of Valentine’s is the reason why solitary people have a tendency to hate the day. We get it; you’re with someone. Great job to you. But you already have your anniversaries (not to mention those stupid regular ones); you don’t need to put your lovers’ vacation on my solitary calendar?
“The day generally is now a rather cheap, commercialized and overdone affair,” said Cheeves. “But if Valentine’s Day continues to be seen as simply a day to say ‘I love you,’ … then it’s the same for everybody, gay or direct.”
“Retailers are definitely getting their money from us too,” he added.
If you have someone to spend the 14th with, you probably already consider yourself lucky. But keep in mind what’s important. Forget those enormous teddy bears that you merely buy which means that your sweetheart won’t feel huge after a chocolate binge.
Gay or right, it’s per day to appreciate your love for every other. Do something quiet and toned down, your love is only between you two after all.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
This Valentine’s Day, I’ll spell out the feelings your love inspires in me: