Lesbian and Gay Parenting
Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals. That translates to greater commitment on average and more involvement.
If it weren’t for the love of my parents, I don’t know where I’d be. The trajectory of life doesn’t change based on who your parents are or what they do or what they look like, but in the quantity of love they provide.
A loving home is the foremost gift a person can receive. The encouragement one can attain in a same sex parenting situation is astronomical. The problem isn’t they are different or they have less to provide. Instead, the dilemma lies in culture. The utter judgment we feel as homosexual people cannot even compare to the people of gay parents who deal with it on a daily basis.
The constant worry about their children being picked on or the school rejecting their child’s admission or the neighbors “gaze” over the separating fence all divides their family from all of those other world in a segregated mind-storm that’s based on the idea that somehow they aren’t nearly as good of parents as a “normal” family is.
Let me tell you something – it is HARD to be a parent. It really is HARD to be gay in this world. Your parents didn’t choose to be gay, but they thought we would be parents; not because they had too – but because they adored you…
The sacrifice a parent makes is unlike anything you can ever imagine. Not until you become one yourself will you finally understand. To put it in words: The “parental sacrifice” is the willingness to put everything you had planned in your life on keep. All the dreams, all the goals. Essentially, you have become their new fantasy. You are the luckiest person in the world.
You aren’t something of your parents, nor were they something of theirs. Because they’re gay doesn’t imply that you are. Having gay parents has nothing to do with your sexuality, regardless of what people may let you know in school. The next time anyone says that to you, clean it off and have a good laugh because you understand they’re wrong – and always will be.
Be grateful which you have a supportive family. Others may not be so lucky, even your closest friends. Because friends and family are in a “heterosexual” family unit, does NOT imply that their family is normal at all. Actually, NOBODY’s family is normal because everyone’s family differs. Some have one child, some have two, others can have 12! Some may have one mother, some could have one dad, and others might have two moms or two fathers. So what!
There is no reason to apologize for your parents. In today’s world, it might even cause you to cooler since it is something to brag about. Your family is unique. That is your chance to change the minds of the world. By leading by example and showing your community that the stigma they have in their mind is only their own creativity, you are causing incredible change for future children who’ve gay parents. The future starts with you.
Speak to your parents, tell them that you love them and wouldn’t want them to improve for anything. Trust me, they feel the same for you. There is certainly nothing that they wouldn’t do to protect you – shouldn’t you provide same in return?