Some straight men tend to avoid relationships with gay men. But the younger generation understands the spectrum and fluidity of sexuality much more than generations of the past. Most liberal-minded straight guys today could say they have gay friends, and people wouldn’t bat an eye.
Being gay in a straight man’s world isn’t easy. This is why we’ve community – to be close with people who understand our encounters, know our challenges, and are living it themselves. Not stating we’re chained or held down by corporate and business America, but when the overpowering majority of state governments ban same sex marriage and have zero anti-discrimination laws and regulations, one must question who really has our back again.
When the world hadn’t accepted LGBT people, we willingly migrated to gay ghettos across the country in a silent form of protest. The “right” world surrounded us, entrapping us just like a fish bowl. We appeared through the glass, mocking, laughing, and endeavoring to live our lives as best we can. Now that people are more acknowledging and tolerant of LGBT people, we’re less stressed about leaving the fish bowl – or even entering it whatsoever.
I don’t believe people must have to segregate themselves from the world, but there is certainly something very special that happens when we do. We define and set the culture by our very own terms. Gay culture nowadays is regularly marketing itself as similar and as well, which we are. But at exactly the same time, we’re not. We’re different, and guess what happens? That’s fantastic. Being different is exactly what brought us collectively – we used to have satisfaction in what established us aside. The many years of desperately wanting to be included in the right world have paid, but are we sacrificing our community in order to attain it?
LGBT people and their allies combat for equality on a daily basis. We’ve been carrying it out for decades. Countless of women and men have stood up for what’s right here in the us and around the world, while their intolerant competitors did nothing at all or, even worse, attempted to preserve their homophobic structure. Though being homosexual is less of a burden than it used to be, we still make an effort to grasp our presence amidst the dominating direct world.
But if there’s a very important factor men crave most, it is power. He who’s the “bulk” makes the guidelines, leaving the indegent minority at the mercy of their feet. It takes significant amounts of empathy for straight people to understand a homosexual man’s problems. Understanding anything outside your world of experience will take courage and an open ear. Fortunately the amounts of empathetic directly allies are growing every year, but for the others, how will they ever obtain empathy unless they rack up the courage to do so?
Being a minority (on many counts) I’ve resided in the fish bowl all my entire life. I’ve been completely alert to my limitations and limits set by the world within the media’s message of what’s possible. If it weren’t for my courage to press the envelope, Lord knows where I’d be.
The term “straight man’s world” is becoming less and less prevalent through my generation, however the need to squeeze in is rapidly growing. What occurred to our pride to be different? That’s what made gay culture so alluring to start with. We were gay, we were very pleased, and we were we noisy. America is a melting pot of culture and backgrounds. If we mix us all jointly, we won’t be nearly as interesting. For many of my gay friends struggling to achieve success atop the right bulk, it’s easy to reduce a sense of what’s possible. But the truth is this: anything can be done when you listen to your truth.