Can Gay Men Over Compliment Each Other?

Humans thrive when they have strong self-esteem and sociable position. Living for the applause seems to be one of the biggest ways to justify our life. It does make us feel valuable and special which in turn makes us acknowledge our self-worth. But I can’t help but feel that the gay community requires it to a complete other level.

Don’t misunderstand me, I love it when I’m complimented. Venturing out in the scene I hear everything the time, but I also give it just as much. It’s as though “You look good!” is a part of our daily greeting. It’s second character for all of us to compliment one another. Perhaps that’s why women love having us around. Whether it’s false or not, the applause is engrained within our ecosystem. But where did it all come from?

Most of us want to feel recognized for who we are. An integral part of human being nature is the necessity to be noticed. Nourishing off each other’s ego is logical to ensure our survival, especially in the gay community. It’s in water supply of why is us unique. But like all apparently good things, bad things may also be apparent inside the layers.

Could the necessity for applause be the fuel towards other not-so-flattering aspects? Say narcissism, artificiality and, dare I say, pretentiousness? Living in Hollywood, I’ve seen firsthand the aftermath of too much applause. You hear tales of superstars who’ve shot to instant fame only to end up turn into a total a**gap overnight. Success gets the power to change a person. Can over-complimenting have the same impact?

Personally I love giving compliments. Never will i give it when it’s not deserved, but I have begun to note a pattern among my friends. Those who receive false compliments have the knack of sense false confidence.

In the gay community, words are absolve to use. Their thrown out there for the world to listen to and accept, very hardly ever do we think about what we’re saying. Sometimes we mean it, other times we don’t, with certain moments we use it as an effort to be liked. It’s become an unspoken rule that compliments are a homosexual man’s weapon and armor.

It seems like within the last decade roughly compliments have become arbitrary. Rarely does it take work, yet it may bring a great deal of validation for the person who’s hearing it. But can an excessive amount of it turn into an unhealthy habit? The more we gain our self-esteem from other people, the more dependent we’ll be onto it.

Applause and accolades have the propensity to become craving. I really like it. You like it. We all love it. The joyous feeling of appreciation is distributed by all human nature. There’s no need to apologize for this, but is there the potential of turning unhealthy?